Berendoi and Bercukur Jambul for Iman

Last 2 week ends, on the 10th of August, we held a traditional malay ceremony to welcome new born babies - Bercukur Jambul where you cut the hair of the baby to clean the scalp and allow new hair to grow and Berendoi which is like how sleeping beauty got to meet all her fairy god mother and receive all the well wishes....

I've never heard of Berendoi ceremony till that day, so I did a bit of research...so here we go...

Adat berendoi atau buai bayi ini dipersembahkan sebagai tanda keriangan atau kesyukuran menyambut kelahiran cahaya mata. Lagu-lagu Berendoi atau Dendang Siti Fatimah membawa seni kata yang memuji junjungan Nabi Muhammad s.a.w, menceritakan perihal susah payah ibu mengandung dan melahirkan anak dan juga nasihat-nasihat kepada kanak-kanak. Ada juga seni kata yang dicipta oleh kumpulan ini disesuaikan dengan keadaan semasa. Antara lagu yang dibawa dalam majlis berendoi ialah Tuhan Rabbul'alamin, Anak di dalam Buaian, Ayuhai Anak Cahaya Mata, Kebesaran Allah, dan Aduhai Anak Jangan Durhaka. Berikut ialah lagu Anak di dalam Buaian:

Ayuhai anak di dalam buaian,
Pejamkan mata jangan tangiskan,
Lagu Berendoi kami dendangkan,
Di dalam majlis tanda kesyukuran.
Lamalah sudah kami menanti,
Namun engkau tak kunjung tiba,
Dengan takdir ilahi rabbi,
Kini engkau sudah menjelma.

excerpt taken from "Adat Resam Melayu" at www.ashtech.com.my

cool.... I have to admit the malays puts tradition very high in our social strata... i do hope that such tradition will not be forgotten by the younger generation...it is our identity.

next on the calendar is Aqiqah..watch this space.

hampeh betul la

Story 1

the other day me and my girlfriends were having our get together to release some steam......

as usual we talked about work,family, life, man and women issues.

one very interesting soalan 'cepu mas' was..how many guys have we dated?

we had to guests each others ......

ada ka depa teka aku punye 400..... kureeeeeng

hampeh betul la my friends ni.



Story 2

had another lunch session with my other group of friends and we missed each other so much , we had a go at each other...

how it came about I really can't remember but they suddenly were talking about me and my sense of dressing ..usualy in the barest minimum and rather challenging to the keimanan. well not to my standards....

it took them 3 hours to tell me about every single incident...itupun lepas gelak terbahak bahak.

hampeh betul la my friends ni

like i said we miss each other so much


story 3

tooot ... not suitable for public reading.

tapi tetap hampeh la my friends ni.


anyway kengkawan tak yah risau le... i dah tua dah ...tak buat lagi dah.

My best wishes to the Happy Couples

Congratulations to Valerine, Marina and Abdullah...... sempat lah menyelit gambar the 3 new Charlie's Angels...kwang kwang kwang

yang maha mengetahui

best nye bulan ogos..bulan semua orang naik pelamin...jemputan tiap tiap minggu. cuma tak best bila ada soalan cepu mas :



"you bila lagi?"



anyway my mom and I tengah seronok shopping sebab 24 Ogos ialah majlis pertunangan Reza dan Aida, tambah lagi ahli keluarga ..alhamdulillah. 10 Ogos majlis cukur jambul for Rifdi. 16 Ogos kawan kawan pula kawin.



Tapi dalam kemeriahan meyambut adik ipar baru dan anak buah baru... hati tertanya macam mana rasanye bila kita nak kahwin tanpa mak dan ayah di sisi? bukan sebab yatim piatu tapi sebab perpecahan dan perbalahan sesama keluarga.tak semua bertuah macam my brother. ibu dan ayah pergi merisik, lepas tu atur majlis bertunang sampailah ke hari nikah dan bersanding.



macam mana rasa nya nak jumpa bapak mertua dan mak mertua ? tak ada sedara mara nak buat kenduri kendara. Duit memang boleh di cari tapi keluarga tak mungkin boleh di beli.



ada seorang insan yang I sayang tapi sangat diduga hidupnya. mak dan ayah dah bercerai. dia dibesarkan oleh atuk dan nenek. mak ada keluarga baru...ada adik adik baru. pada siapa tempat nak mengadu?



bulan ni i nak tolong dia.... sebab dia tak lah bertuah macam adik I tapi dia I anggap sama macam adik sendiri. dia seorang yang sangat penyabar dan pengasih...pernah jaga arwah nenek berbulan bulan tak kenal penat dan jemu. pernah menangung ibu dan adik adik angkat makan minum dengan duit sendiri. kalau i fikirkan I pun malu sebab gaji lebih besar tapi tak pernah pun sampai boleh buat semua tu.

sayang sekali bila ibu sendiri sudah tidak mengaku anak .... bila ayah sendiri dah tak peduli...



tak boleh nak bayangkan macam mana rasa nye .... semoga segala dugaan menjadi penguat semangat sebab Tuhan itu lebih mengetahui...


not to worry , we are all here for you .... ibu , ayah , abang rezal, kak jai, abang reza and hafiz. uncle din, uncle cah , uncle khalid and bibik jah will be there for you. we will be your parents.

have i lost my compassion as a friend?

yesterday was really an interesting day as my friend had an early departure from his present office. the kind of departure that left you saying "hmmmmm"

one cannot help but to feel that life can be both unjust but fair. How is that? you may ask...

it was like something can be very unjust yet its the facts of life which makes it fair in comparison.

of course as a bystander I felt bad but somehow I know that it was an expected event. probably even a de javu

cant help but to feel sad because as a friend had i done my best to have done something which could have had a better outcome? could i have spent more time and effort to help my friend? was i selfish in my own needs to the extend that i allowed my friend to be swallowed by the system?

i wish him all the best in his future undertakings as he is a really nice person.....which makes me feel rather uncomfortable as to what will happen to me if i was put in that situation?

will my friends help me before its too late?

jeng jeng jeng