Lesson of the day is about stupidity, ignorance and rational ignorance
Stupidity : Lack of intelligence; poor use of judgement; insensitivity to nuances in a person who is other wise intelligent
Ignorance: " is not a defence" ( learnt that in Law School) ; lack of knowledge or just plain uninformed
Rational Ignorance: Ignorance about an issue is said to be rational when cost of educating oneself about that issue sufficiently to make an informed decision can outweigh any potential benefit one can reasonable expect to gain from that decision, and so it would be irrational to waste time doing so.
I encountered all three today....has anyone ever made a decision at one point in time and thought that it was made with all issues taken into consideration and yet to find out later it was the most stupidest thing you could have ever done...and you cannot justify your decision because ignorance is not a defence ?..and yet you knew that it was rational.
sigh...if this is a process that i have to go through so that i become a better leader in the future ..then let there be light at the end of the tunnel coz its mighty dark at the moment.
Background song : Stupid by Radiohead.
Wednesday, January 31, 2007
Tuesday, January 30, 2007
when a women says " I am not upset" it means....
I receive these in my email today....
DICTIONARY FOR WOMEN'S PERSONAL ADS
40-ish - 49
Adventurous - Slept with everyone
Athletic - No tits
Average looking - Ugly
Beautiful - Pathological liar
Contagious Smile - Does a lot of pills
Emotionally secure - On medication
Feminist - Fat
Free spirit - Junkie
Friendship first - Former very *friendly* person
Fun - Annoying
New Age - Body hair in the wrong places
Open-minded - Desperate
Outgoing - Loud and Embarrassing
Passionate - Sloppy drunk
Professional - Bitch
Voluptuous - Very Fat
Large frame - Hugely Fat
Wants Soul mate - Stalker
WOMEN'S ENGLISH
1. Yes = No
2. No = Yes
3. Maybe = No
4. We need = I want
5. I am sorry = you'll be sorry
6. We need to talk = you're in trouble
7. Sure, go ahead = you better not
8. Do what you want = you will pay for this later
9. I am not upset = of course I am upset, you moron!
10. You're very attentive tonight = is sex all you ever think about?
MEN'S ENGLISH
1. I am hungry = I am hungry
2. I am sleepy = I am sleepy
3. I am tired = I am tired
4. Nice dress = Nice cleavage!
5. I love you = let's have sex now
6. I am bored = Do you want to have sex?
7. May I have this dance? = I'd like to have sex with you
8. Can I call you sometime? = I'd like to have sex with you
9. Do you want to go to a movie? = I'd like to have sex with you
10. Can I take you out to dinner? = I'd like to have sex with you
11. Those shoes don't go with that outfit = I'm gay
And finally.....A recent scientific study found that women find different male faces attractive depending on where they are in their menstrual cycle.
For example, when a woman is ovulating she will prefer a man with rugged, masculine features.
However when she is menstruating, she prefers a man doused in petrol and set on fire, with scissors stuck in his eye and a cricket stump shoved up his backside.
**********************************************************************************
THE GUYS' RULES
At last a guy has taken the time to write this all down,
the guys' side of the story.(I must admit, it's pretty good.)
We always hear "the rules "From the female side.
Now here are the rules from the male side.
These are our rules!Please note.. these are all numbered "1"ON PURPOSE!
1. Men ARE not mind readers.
1. Learn to work the toilet seat.You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down.We need it up, you down.You don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down.
1. Sunday sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides.Let it be.
1. Shopping is NOT a sport.And no, we are never going to think of it that way.
1. Crying is blackmail.1. Ask for what you want.Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work!Strong hints do not work!Obvious hints do not work!Just say it!
1. Yes and No are perfectly Acceptable answers to almost every question.
1. Come to us with a problem only If you want help solving it. That's what we do.Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem See a doctor.
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 Days.
1. If you won't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't Expect us to act like soap opera guys.
1. If you think you're fat, you probably are.Don't ask us.
1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one
1. You can either ask us to do something Or tell us how you want it done.Not both.If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
1. Whenever possible , Please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
1. Christopher Columbus did NOT< /U> need directions and neither do we.
1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings.Peach, for example, is a fruit, not! A color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.
1. If it itches, it will BE scratched.We do that.
1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," We will act like nothing's wrong.We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, Expect an answer you don't want to hear.
1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear Is fine... Really.
1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as baseball, the shotgun formation,or golf.
1. You have enough clothes.
1. You have too many shoes.
1. I am in shape. Round IS a shape!
1. Thank you for reading this. Yes, they know, they have to sleep on the couch tonight;But did you know men really don't mind that? It's like camping.
p/s to The Boys that I have been hanging out lately..you know who you are...my apologies for writing about all of you..it just shows that "You Guys...are worthy of being mentioned in my blog" :)
DICTIONARY FOR WOMEN'S PERSONAL ADS
40-ish - 49
Adventurous - Slept with everyone
Athletic - No tits
Average looking - Ugly
Beautiful - Pathological liar
Contagious Smile - Does a lot of pills
Emotionally secure - On medication
Feminist - Fat
Free spirit - Junkie
Friendship first - Former very *friendly* person
Fun - Annoying
New Age - Body hair in the wrong places
Open-minded - Desperate
Outgoing - Loud and Embarrassing
Passionate - Sloppy drunk
Professional - Bitch
Voluptuous - Very Fat
Large frame - Hugely Fat
Wants Soul mate - Stalker
WOMEN'S ENGLISH
1. Yes = No
2. No = Yes
3. Maybe = No
4. We need = I want
5. I am sorry = you'll be sorry
6. We need to talk = you're in trouble
7. Sure, go ahead = you better not
8. Do what you want = you will pay for this later
9. I am not upset = of course I am upset, you moron!
10. You're very attentive tonight = is sex all you ever think about?
MEN'S ENGLISH
1. I am hungry = I am hungry
2. I am sleepy = I am sleepy
3. I am tired = I am tired
4. Nice dress = Nice cleavage!
5. I love you = let's have sex now
6. I am bored = Do you want to have sex?
7. May I have this dance? = I'd like to have sex with you
8. Can I call you sometime? = I'd like to have sex with you
9. Do you want to go to a movie? = I'd like to have sex with you
10. Can I take you out to dinner? = I'd like to have sex with you
11. Those shoes don't go with that outfit = I'm gay
And finally.....A recent scientific study found that women find different male faces attractive depending on where they are in their menstrual cycle.
For example, when a woman is ovulating she will prefer a man with rugged, masculine features.
However when she is menstruating, she prefers a man doused in petrol and set on fire, with scissors stuck in his eye and a cricket stump shoved up his backside.
**********************************************************************************
THE GUYS' RULES
At last a guy has taken the time to write this all down,
the guys' side of the story.(I must admit, it's pretty good.)
We always hear "the rules "From the female side.
Now here are the rules from the male side.
These are our rules!Please note.. these are all numbered "1"ON PURPOSE!
1. Men ARE not mind readers.
1. Learn to work the toilet seat.You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down.We need it up, you down.You don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down.
1. Sunday sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides.Let it be.
1. Shopping is NOT a sport.And no, we are never going to think of it that way.
1. Crying is blackmail.1. Ask for what you want.Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work!Strong hints do not work!Obvious hints do not work!Just say it!
1. Yes and No are perfectly Acceptable answers to almost every question.
1. Come to us with a problem only If you want help solving it. That's what we do.Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem See a doctor.
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 Days.
1. If you won't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't Expect us to act like soap opera guys.
1. If you think you're fat, you probably are.Don't ask us.
1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one
1. You can either ask us to do something Or tell us how you want it done.Not both.If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
1. Whenever possible , Please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
1. Christopher Columbus did NOT< /U> need directions and neither do we.
1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings.Peach, for example, is a fruit, not! A color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.
1. If it itches, it will BE scratched.We do that.
1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," We will act like nothing's wrong.We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, Expect an answer you don't want to hear.
1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear Is fine... Really.
1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as baseball, the shotgun formation,or golf.
1. You have enough clothes.
1. You have too many shoes.
1. I am in shape. Round IS a shape!
1. Thank you for reading this. Yes, they know, they have to sleep on the couch tonight;But did you know men really don't mind that? It's like camping.
p/s to The Boys that I have been hanging out lately..you know who you are...my apologies for writing about all of you..it just shows that "You Guys...are worthy of being mentioned in my blog" :)
Thursday, January 25, 2007
comfort zone
The inability to let go of that sense of security. ... i just cant do it. Had a conversation with my girlfriend about throwing the towel and walk away from this organisation...she has had it!..and I thought : can I do that?... just drop everything and do what I want to do as and when I like to do it?
I started giving myself excuses like : too much obligation la : don't know what to do la : what if the grass is not GREENER on the other side la.
What has ever become of my blind faith in life? I use to just pull myself out of any company and go and start again. but now i have this mental condition resulting in this mental boundaries that may have given me an artificial sense of security..Why?
Could it be my age? or have i really found my calling? same job till i retire? have i lost that ability to live my life to the fullest?
have a girlfriend who wants to quit her present job and try out something new..no doubt its harder than what she is doing now and way way tougher to survive and with possibly less pay, less glamorous, more headache and even less time to spend with her family. and yet she wants to do it! though its suicidal i admire that. i cant do it...
i learned a new phrase today- cognitive dissonance - the state of unease or discomfort an individual experiences when actual reality doesn't correspond to the constructed mental image. (I personally feel that the fanatical fans of Mawi are suffering from this! )
Anyway, Mawi aside, its like you create this believe in your mind that you think it represent the actual scenario but in fact it is distorted and untrue from what that things really is. i feel that way about my love life.. in fact about the whole marriage institution!
So am I going to do it? jeng jeng jeng....
I started giving myself excuses like : too much obligation la : don't know what to do la : what if the grass is not GREENER on the other side la.
What has ever become of my blind faith in life? I use to just pull myself out of any company and go and start again. but now i have this mental condition resulting in this mental boundaries that may have given me an artificial sense of security..Why?
Could it be my age? or have i really found my calling? same job till i retire? have i lost that ability to live my life to the fullest?
have a girlfriend who wants to quit her present job and try out something new..no doubt its harder than what she is doing now and way way tougher to survive and with possibly less pay, less glamorous, more headache and even less time to spend with her family. and yet she wants to do it! though its suicidal i admire that. i cant do it...
i learned a new phrase today- cognitive dissonance - the state of unease or discomfort an individual experiences when actual reality doesn't correspond to the constructed mental image. (I personally feel that the fanatical fans of Mawi are suffering from this! )
Anyway, Mawi aside, its like you create this believe in your mind that you think it represent the actual scenario but in fact it is distorted and untrue from what that things really is. i feel that way about my love life.. in fact about the whole marriage institution!
So am I going to do it? jeng jeng jeng....
Tuesday, January 23, 2007
Pain
Pain: is an unpleasant sensation at the bottom of your heart.....has anyone ever ever ever ever feel that way ?
and despite its unpleasantness, pain is an important part of the existence of human; in fact it is so important its vital to survival.
through pain i learn to pick up the small pieces and wake up every morning thankful that i still have my love ones with me ( thanks ayah and ibu..i love you guys)
through pain i learn the meaning of resilience ( thanks all ex boyfriends)
through pain i learn the meaning of professionalism ( thanks all my leaders)
through pain i learn to love ( thank you baby)
God i felt that this week.... indeed god works in his own mysterious way.
and despite its unpleasantness, pain is an important part of the existence of human; in fact it is so important its vital to survival.
through pain i learn to pick up the small pieces and wake up every morning thankful that i still have my love ones with me ( thanks ayah and ibu..i love you guys)
through pain i learn the meaning of resilience ( thanks all ex boyfriends)
through pain i learn the meaning of professionalism ( thanks all my leaders)
through pain i learn to love ( thank you baby)
God i felt that this week.... indeed god works in his own mysterious way.
Friday, January 19, 2007
last week the bosses had a management retreat to Hanoi... what we layman call..work for one day and enjoy the rest of the days..ah the privilege of being 'top level management'. my turn will come ...
so they posted in the intranet some of the pics they took during the trip to Hanoi... these are the few that has captured my sense of humour or lack of it depending on how you want to see it. See: pictures of a thousand words
so they posted in the intranet some of the pics they took during the trip to Hanoi... these are the few that has captured my sense of humour or lack of it depending on how you want to see it. See: pictures of a thousand words
pictures of a thousand words
The new upcoming Hilton Johor.... we are always prepared!
This is the picture of the delivery guy who came to my office the day after I had a fight with my then boyfriend...
Yeah Right!
Yeah Right!
Wednesday, January 17, 2007
a lesson on humility
today i learn to eat a piece of my own humble pie
case in point..my colleague and I was given a task to complete with the objective of making this organisation , our employer, understand the nature of our accounts and why it must be given the special attention and exception that it requires.
unfortunately i was too bogged down with my own unorganised project and other personal matter ( read as :simply tidak apa attitude) that i have some what neglected to give this special task the attention and detail report that it requires, looking at the fact that it will be a point of reference by my boss and other bosses in this company. hence..i just did what any desperate person feeling guilty and bad will do... hentam saje la.while at the same time praying and justifying why my shoddy work should be acceptable by my boss.
as god is always fair, my colleague who is a wonderful person , i swear to that and not just because she may be reading this blog later, has put in her labour of love into this project and has done a very outstanding job at it despite the fact that she too has a demanding personal life to attend too.
as expected my boss gave his usual kindergarten remark..'i will rotan you for delivering such shoddy work to me!'..( read as: how dare you undermine my intelligence)
indeed today i learn to eat my own humble pie as one cannot take short cuts towards professionalism. professionalism cannot be learn in one day nor in a book or seminar room. it is in your daily life and the people around you. here's to you buddy..job well done. keep it up and i sincerely do want to see you shine.
p/s i will of course just follow your spread sheet and apply it to my own accounts. not patented yet kan ;)
case in point..my colleague and I was given a task to complete with the objective of making this organisation , our employer, understand the nature of our accounts and why it must be given the special attention and exception that it requires.
unfortunately i was too bogged down with my own unorganised project and other personal matter ( read as :simply tidak apa attitude) that i have some what neglected to give this special task the attention and detail report that it requires, looking at the fact that it will be a point of reference by my boss and other bosses in this company. hence..i just did what any desperate person feeling guilty and bad will do... hentam saje la.while at the same time praying and justifying why my shoddy work should be acceptable by my boss.
as god is always fair, my colleague who is a wonderful person , i swear to that and not just because she may be reading this blog later, has put in her labour of love into this project and has done a very outstanding job at it despite the fact that she too has a demanding personal life to attend too.
as expected my boss gave his usual kindergarten remark..'i will rotan you for delivering such shoddy work to me!'..( read as: how dare you undermine my intelligence)
indeed today i learn to eat my own humble pie as one cannot take short cuts towards professionalism. professionalism cannot be learn in one day nor in a book or seminar room. it is in your daily life and the people around you. here's to you buddy..job well done. keep it up and i sincerely do want to see you shine.
p/s i will of course just follow your spread sheet and apply it to my own accounts. not patented yet kan ;)
Tuesday, January 16, 2007
if only men treat women the way they treat their cars
time and time again i meet men who would treat their cars or other men's cars like its the best thing that can ever happen to them. 'Its my first wife' they beam and smile.
case in point..i met a client of mine today whom i have been seeing for really important business prospects and he happens to be working at one of the most influential government ministries here. it just so happen that i have to drive the company car for reasons only god knows...anyway.. the car happened to be a SMART CAR for 2. and as you all know SMART CARS are expensive in Malaysia. I can buy an apartment for that kind of money! well in Bangi at least.
so mr 'i am important government business contact to your hotel man' had just one look at the SMARTCAR and blurted out all information i needed including budgets and whatever to me ( i swear i saw him salivate)..info that i would never have had even if i would begged him , wash his car, clothes, feed his family and cat , pay his housing loan and his holiday expenses! All in the name of giving him the bloody car and letting him have a spin.
another case in point...mr i am a important head of division and i am too busy to entertain you...bump into him at the same parking lot and lore and behold the man practically left his car unattended with the keys still stuck in the ignition and walk up to me and just stared at the car...
Is that yours? he had to ask. (duh?)
Yes , I said. 'Would you like to test drive it?'
uhuh...took the keys from my hands and got into the drivers seat
Errr how about your car? i ask
Eleh tak pe ..tak de orang nak curik de
sigh if only all men would treat women the way they treat their cars...life would be so simple
when my friend's BMW radiator gave problems when he was half way to Kuantan...did he fret? noooooooo...just quietly send the car to the mechanic and paid 2K for the repair. one week prior to that something fell off and he got stranded on the highway..did he cursed and got upset? nooooo can smile smile and call his buddy to help him bring the mechanic to look at the car.
Why oh why lord do men treat their cars better then women?
Dont bother to give me an answer if you are a man.
case in point..i met a client of mine today whom i have been seeing for really important business prospects and he happens to be working at one of the most influential government ministries here. it just so happen that i have to drive the company car for reasons only god knows...anyway.. the car happened to be a SMART CAR for 2. and as you all know SMART CARS are expensive in Malaysia. I can buy an apartment for that kind of money! well in Bangi at least.
so mr 'i am important government business contact to your hotel man' had just one look at the SMARTCAR and blurted out all information i needed including budgets and whatever to me ( i swear i saw him salivate)..info that i would never have had even if i would begged him , wash his car, clothes, feed his family and cat , pay his housing loan and his holiday expenses! All in the name of giving him the bloody car and letting him have a spin.
another case in point...mr i am a important head of division and i am too busy to entertain you...bump into him at the same parking lot and lore and behold the man practically left his car unattended with the keys still stuck in the ignition and walk up to me and just stared at the car...
Is that yours? he had to ask. (duh?)
Yes , I said. 'Would you like to test drive it?'
uhuh...took the keys from my hands and got into the drivers seat
Errr how about your car? i ask
Eleh tak pe ..tak de orang nak curik de
sigh if only all men would treat women the way they treat their cars...life would be so simple
when my friend's BMW radiator gave problems when he was half way to Kuantan...did he fret? noooooooo...just quietly send the car to the mechanic and paid 2K for the repair. one week prior to that something fell off and he got stranded on the highway..did he cursed and got upset? nooooo can smile smile and call his buddy to help him bring the mechanic to look at the car.
Why oh why lord do men treat their cars better then women?
Dont bother to give me an answer if you are a man.
Monday, January 15, 2007
denial
Denial - simple yet strong word. inability to learn and cope with reality. cant face facts just reject it instead. This weekend was all about denying oneself of the one thing you would just die to have but just wont allow yourself to admit it. I am not talking about buying a handbag or a pair of shoes here...just plain indulgence in loving some one so badly but just refusing to admit it. or admit but refuse to see how serious it is. or admit and acknowledge its seriousness but refuse to take responsibility.
sigh..i see it happening everywhere..like a common disease spreading... one of mygirlfriends just shed a tear last week end for refusing to admit that she is heart broken and he was not into her to begin with... another friend just refuse to open her heart to one of the most eligible bachelors in town so that she can save herself the hassle of getting over him in case he dumps her...one of my bestfriends becomes confused for loving a girl for so long and suddenly not knowing what to do when she loves him too and just walk away.
denial so simple yet so strong...childish yet mature in its conflicts. and yet i too embrace it with open arms consciously or subconsciously. i too find it difficult to handle reality especialy the painful ones. i too love and continue to love and yet refuse to accept it for what ever reason that may be.
we justify our actions as correct and blame others. denial.
we lie to cover our pain.denial
we refuse to or avoid thinking about or understanding someone or their behaviour. denial
sigh..i see it happening everywhere..like a common disease spreading... one of mygirlfriends just shed a tear last week end for refusing to admit that she is heart broken and he was not into her to begin with... another friend just refuse to open her heart to one of the most eligible bachelors in town so that she can save herself the hassle of getting over him in case he dumps her...one of my bestfriends becomes confused for loving a girl for so long and suddenly not knowing what to do when she loves him too and just walk away.
denial so simple yet so strong...childish yet mature in its conflicts. and yet i too embrace it with open arms consciously or subconsciously. i too find it difficult to handle reality especialy the painful ones. i too love and continue to love and yet refuse to accept it for what ever reason that may be.
we justify our actions as correct and blame others. denial.
we lie to cover our pain.denial
we refuse to or avoid thinking about or understanding someone or their behaviour. denial
Saturday, January 13, 2007
my first post!
At last I decided to create a blog..could be a mistake or could be liberating. I dont know.
Whats worst is to allow complete strangers to read about my inner thoughts as if it matters to them or to me.
Oh the temptation to kutuk so many people and to vent out all my frustrations so strong.
Whats worst is to allow complete strangers to read about my inner thoughts as if it matters to them or to me.
Oh the temptation to kutuk so many people and to vent out all my frustrations so strong.
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